The Revenge King

Have you been so angry with someone that hurt you that you considered acting out to hurt them? Seeking revenge is a common reaction when you are wronged, but often times revenge is not the best thing to resolve the problem. Dealing with your pain by dwelling on the situation and plotting your revenge is actually counter productive as you continue to expend time and energy being negative. Many people drive themselves crazy lamenting over an act of mistreatment and how to  get back at the person who hurt them, but plotting and even carrying out revenge is not the best way to get back at a person who hurt you.

Before you invest lots of energy into seeking revenge consider that the thoughts and energy you are creating are all negative; plans to cause pain and remembering your own hurt. When you invest your energy and thoughts in these negative considerations you create an imbalance of energy in your life and it becomes harder and harder to be positive and move on from the mistreatment that hurt you in the first place.

The cost of revenge is prolonged anxiety and negative feelings. The effort you put into plotting your revenge and rehashing your own hurt are better put to use towards positive feelings and moving on. If you truly want revenge the best course of action is to find a way to let go, be positive, and show the person who hurt you that their actions no longer affect you. If they truly meant to cause you pain the fact that they failed will hurt them more than any action you could take. It could also be that the person’s actions weren’t meant to hurt you, and in that case you will have moved on and will be focusing on positive things rather than wallowing in your own pain.

It is human nature to want to seek justice which often means dwelling on misdeeds and planning revenge. Revenge can be costly, however, and end up causing you more pain than necessary. The cycle of negative feelings that revenge brings is not the best way to heal after you have been hurt. Let go and move on, you will feel better and your positive energy will be the best type of revenge.

It’s human nature to want revenge on an obnoxious ex-boss.  But is it really worth it?  Even if you get a moment’s worth of ‘revenge’, it probably won’t change the person’s behavior.  They will continue to look down on you and everyone else who works under them.  And, they may even move up further in the company… something that might make you uneasy.   

That’s why it’s better for employees to try to understand the mindset of their ex-bosses.  By doing this, the process of letting go becomes much easier.  Why?  Well, they start to see that despite their ex-boss’s corporate success, inside they are a miserable person.  And in reality, no revenge is really necessary because the ex-boss is destroying themselves through subconscious unhappiness. 

Why is the subconscious unhappiness there in the first place?  It depends on the boss.  If they are unmarried, they might act meaner towards married employees.  Subconsciously, the boss is lashing out at the people that have what they think they want… love and family. 

The same could also be said when it comes to looks.  If a boss feels unattractive, they’re not necessarily going to like employees who they perceive as beautiful.  So, they try to maintain their ‘superiority’ by tearing that person down. 

Then there are bosses who are mean to everyone.  Usually, this is due to being drunk on power.  The feeling is worsened if they have an unhappy personal life.  In the office, they feel they have the ultimate control.  They say something and people scurry around like crazy. 

So, the next time you feel like doing something stupid against your ex-boss, try to think like a psychologist.  Try to analyze why your ex-boss is so mean.  Once you come up with an idea, you might even be sympathetic.  Why?  Well, you would understand the REAL reason why your ex-boss behaved as they did.

Now, if all that doesn’t fully work, and you still want Revenge, then do it in a positive way. I’ve found that the best way to get revenge is to get stinking rich, and let your enemy know it! Personally I got rich a few years back through something called “six figure yearly.” I don’t usually share these sorts of things, and in this case their online page is a bit cheezy, but if you want to see what I did you can click here:

If you’re interested in seeing how unethical people can be enter the keyword “revenge on boss” into a search engine.  Instead of emphasizing the principle of living well, many purport taking revenge in a way that could disrupt a boss’s personal life.  For example, one “revenge on boss” site suggested calling the boss’s home number and talking in a sexy voice.  Other sites offered suggestions on how to end the boss’s career.

These methods are underhanded and may even cause legal problems, depending on what is done.  Instead, consider another alternative… the ‘living well’ postcard.  This gets your ‘revenge’ out without being childish, immoral or unethical. 

So, how does the ‘living well’ post-card work?  First, you need to think about your ex-boss’s personal weaknesses.  For example, if they are single, they might be concerned about marriage.  If they are obsessed with money, they’re going to be concerned with financial independence and moving up in the company.  The list goes on and on.

Anyway, when these events happen in your own personal life, you could send a postcard letting your boss know.  For instance, say you are about to get married.  Send a postcard inviting the ex-boss to your wedding.  If this is something that is a sore spot for them, they will get jealous, even if it is subconsciously. 

Another living-well postcard could be sent once you establish a very successful business.  If the boss is into money, this will get under their skin… especially if they viewed you as being beneath them. 

When you are finished creating your ‘living-well’ postcard, you may find that you don’t even want to mail it off.  You may be so happy with your own personal success, you won’t need to throw it up in your ex-boss’s face.  But if you can’t get to that level, at least you get revenge without being evil.